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So you have watched "The Secret".
You keep hearing about "The Law of Attraction"
If you are like the rest of us... you have not only watched "The Secret", you have watched it so many times, you can say every line along with the video. You have joined internet blog groups, gone to seminars, bought every book and read them cover to cover more than once.
You have done EVERYTHING they teach.
So Where’s Your Stuff?
That is exactly what I wanted to know. I watched "The Secret" with my dearest friend and business associate. I showed it to my children. I actually recorded the audio off the video to play it in my car. (A product they hadn´t created yet.) As suggested in the video, I intended to have $30,000 unexpected income in the next 30 days.
Within 2 weeks of first seeing "The Secret", I found out I was getting at least $33,000!! It worked!!
The problem was, the money was from my father´s life insurance. He died unexpectedly.
I was shocked and I was scared. Had I caused this? Had I set my father’s death in motion? How could my money worries be cleared up so neatly and so horribly all at the same time?
Mostly, I didn’t believe this could all be so easy. I grew up learning that
"Life is hard."
"Success comes at a price."
"People with a lot of money are not like us."
"You can´t get something for nothing."
There you go!!! That was it! That word again "believe". I grew up believing that if I didn´t work hard and suffer for what I wanted, then it was bad to have it. So when I learned about "The Secret" and implemented it, I got exactly what I wanted, within the limiting structure of my belief system.
In line with my limiting beliefs, my $33,471.72 was delayed by 3 months.
Not one to be swayed so easily, I decided to stick with "The Law of Attraction". Afterall, I sort of knew I couldn´t have literally caused my father´s death. So I continued working with the principles of "The Secret". This time being more careful to qualify my intended outcome with an added phrase "causing no harm to myself or others".
Again, it worked!! much to my own disbelief. Over the next few months, I had accumulated another $5,379 from a different insurance policy, $7,000 from an unexpected free-lance job, $6,000 from an investment, and $42,124 from my father´s estate...$87,974 unexpected income in less than 8 months!
I couldn’t believe it! (There is that believe word again.)
So guess what?
The $7,000 never arrived because my employer filed bankruptcy.
My $42,000 was sent to an old address so the check had to be cancelled, re-issued (less fees) and sent to the correct address.
The $6,000 payout from my "investment" not only never arrived, I was conned. I lost my initial $10,000 plus $13,000 more. Sob story, he was desperate, it was short term, not only would I get my $23,000 and my $6,000, but at least $5,000 more. Never happened.
Again, "The Law of Attraction" was working, but it was getting hung up at every opportunity. Typical Then I realized "That is it!!!" "The Secret" is not the problem. It is working every time I use it. But every time I attracted something I wanted, something else went wrong!
How can someone who attracted
(and received) over $80,000 be
homeless, hungry and broke?
Believe me, I had many, many, many hours of self loathing and hateful words to myself asking exactly that question. Yes, I basically threw $23,000 at a con–man who promised big returns on my "investment", but that left over $60,000. I spent nearly $20,000 on a vacation and summer camp for my kids before things got bad. Still, that left $40,000 which goes very quickly paying for hotel rooms and drive-thru food when no other money is coming in. I am now an expert at shopping at the 99 Cent Store and Fast food "Value Menus".
I went on to spend most of the money that actually did arrive just on surviving. In the middle of all of this, I moved to find it difficult to find a job and a place to live without verifiable income. Before my move, I took my children on a "once in a lifetime" trip. Throughout our trip, I continued to tell myself "enjoy this now because you will never be able to afford this again."
After a few months, I was still jobless, broke, broken and my children and I were homeless. We went from a nice hotel, to a lesser hotel, to a drug dealer infested cheap motel. While there, both of my children’s bikes were stolen.
The day the second bike was stolen, I was informed we would have to leave the motel because of the "unacceptable condition" of the room. After more than three months at the same hotel, I was told that my toaster and plastic drawers were a hazard.
Drug dealers, rooms with seven occupants, crazy old women who walked their cats on leashes and bike thieves were fine, but a mom, two kids, a toaster and plastic drawers were a hazard. Iwas not even given a chance to remove them! My kids, my toaster, my drawers and me were out on our butts.
I now KNEW "The Law of Attraction"
was a bunch of balony.
Something Had to Change!
I had positive proof that "The Secret" was working and I had positive proof that something was getting in the way. But what could I do to make that change?
Just before we were kicked out of the motel, I had taken out my copy of "The Secret" and forced my children to listen to it daily with me. I reread some of the books I had dismissed as hooey. They made me angry by "blaming" me for all the bad things happening to me. In my wildest dreams, I would never wish these things on anyone else and especially not on me and my children. I actually started reading some of the books I had set aside when things were going from bad to worse. (Who has time to read when you are just surviving?)
I looked around and saw that getting kicked out of the bad motel was a blessing. We were in a bigger room, closer to my children’s friends and schools. We all felt more safe. I asked my kids how badly they had wanted to get out of the last motel and discovered that they had been wishing daily to get out of there, to live closer to friends and to feel more safe. WOW!!! my kids had attracted this! While I was wallowing in fear, they were really listening to the lessons on "The Secret".
It was me that had to change. Or more specifically, my belief systems that were holding me back from fully accepting the abundance I was manifesting through "The Secret".
That is when I went in search of The Secret Behind "The Secret"
I saw how a year before, I was absolutely convinced that while I was very "lucky" to have the things I did, I
knew I'd NEVER again be able to afford the nice home we were leaving and the great vacations we were going on before our move home and my separation from their father.
BINGO It finally hit me. I actually HAD attracted these bad things! I was so afraid that I’d be broke and homeless. I was so afraid I wouldn’t be able to find a good job and support my children. I was so afraid of everything bad tht could happen, that it DID!
To be honest, this realization took a bit of time and attracting a few good things. In my reading and studying, I stopped fighting the lessons and considered that maybe there could be at least SOME truth to them. I realized that I was better than the treatment I was receiving at my part time job.
Whenever I could, I listened to my audio version of "The Secret" and looked for things to be grateful about in my job. Sometimes it was as basic as chanting to myself in my mind, "In one more hour I see my children. In fifty minutes I see my children. In forty minutes I see my children." And being grateful that the job let me buy food that day.
Out of the Blue, I got called for a job I had applied for 3 months earlier. It was only temporary, but paid almost double what I was getting at my other job. And they LOVED me and appreciated my work. After two weeks of trying to do both jobs, I realized that as long as I let myself be treated badly at the first job, I would continue attracting bad treatment. I decided to give two weeks notice. It took me another week and progressively worse treatment to finally quit, but continued to feel grateful for having the job because I had gotten the lead to the new job through someone at the first one.
Every morning, I looked around our room and was grateful to be in a bigger, safer room closer to school and friends for my children. We made a vision board and put things we wanted in a home of our own. We looked at it daily, remembering to be grateful for the room we had already. Just days before leaving the "bad" job, I met a woman just starting work there. Amazingly, she had an apartment that would be coming vacant soon. WOW!!! We attracted a new place along with the new job!
I finally GOT IT!
I finally understood how all of my fear of bad things, attracted bad things. I finally got how gratitude wasn't about gritting my teeth against all the things I wanted, but didn’t have. It was about really feeling gratitude even for the bad things because of the lessons they showed me about what I really wanted.
I finally understood "The Law of Attraction" and purposely used it. No, I haven’t won the million dollars I hoped for, but I also still don’t believe that winning the lottery is in the cards for me.
I didn’t have to be homeless to finally get it. And neither do you.
A year ago, I would never have believed that I would be grateful for being homeless. But I am. It finally caused me to see what I was attracting into my life and how I was attracting what I didn’t want when I tried to attract what I did want. Since I don’t recommend homelessness as a way to true enlightenment, I have gathered a list of the books, courses and information that helped me and continue to help me use "The Law of Attraction" on purpose in ways that benefit my chilren and me.
Resources from the Experts Featured in "The Secret"
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